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- Epiphanies (January 6, 2010)
- Goal Setting Exercise (January 6, 2010)
- Desire Required (December 19, 2009)
| LP Consulting Los Angeles, San Diego, Riverside, Southern California, USA Paradigm Coaching National Professional (805) 798-2835 laura@creatingclaritynow.com |
Desire Required
“Desire is creation, the magical element in that process. If there were an instrument by which to measure desire, one
could foretell achievement.”
Willa Cather, Pulitzer Prize-winning author, MY ANTONIA
We often talk about the things and circumstances we want. At this time of year, we write lists of our accomplishments and shortfalls
and make new goals. Often, we make the same list year after year with the same goals: lose 15 pounds; get a new job; write that
novel; spend more time with family and friends; find a soul mate; exercise; be more patient; have more fun; make more money.
Maybe this is not true for you but it is for me. So, the question becomes how to make this year different. As we begin the second
decade of the 21st century, we must look with new eyes at everything, beginning with our selves. We must treat ourselves with loving
kindness, patience, imagination, and innovation.
Desire is the motor to reinvigorate old goals and to motivate the imagination to create new goals. We must reevaluate our desires.
What do we truly desire? Forget using words; we have overused words. Go for feelings and pictures in your head. Imagine;
visualize; envision; remember the feelings; and write descriptions.
Don't be too literal. If you see a new place to live when you dream; write about it in detail. How do you want to feel in that house?
Can you change your current home to give you that feeling? Do you want the house to impress others or to be the retreat you need
to renew yourself? If it is a big goal, break it down into multi-year milestone accomplishments and celebrate achieving each milestone.
Now is the time to end worn-out goals and replace them with driven, contextual desires. So often in my coaching, clients have trouble
seeing past the desire to just stop feeling bad or to reduce stress. It takes multiple sessions and consistent practice to move into
unexplored areas of desire and intention.
If you can find a symbolic through-line to your life, you have an advantage. If you can believe that you came here to accomplish
certain goals or to be of service in some way, you can more easily design goals driven by intense desire. I am lucky. I understand
what I am trying to accomplish in my life so that I can look at each circumstance and relationship as part of a whole serving the
purpose of teaching me and giving me the chance to be a better human and stronger spirit.
Please take some time to sit quietly, meditate, pray, vision, dream, explore, and think about the strong desires that will propel you
forward.
All the best for a glorious 2010!
“Desire is creation, the magical element in that process. If there were an instrument by which to measure desire, one
could foretell achievement.”
Willa Cather, Pulitzer Prize-winning author, MY ANTONIA
We often talk about the things and circumstances we want. At this time of year, we write lists of our accomplishments and shortfalls
and make new goals. Often, we make the same list year after year with the same goals: lose 15 pounds; get a new job; write that
novel; spend more time with family and friends; find a soul mate; exercise; be more patient; have more fun; make more money.
Maybe this is not true for you but it is for me. So, the question becomes how to make this year different. As we begin the second
decade of the 21st century, we must look with new eyes at everything, beginning with our selves. We must treat ourselves with loving
kindness, patience, imagination, and innovation.
Desire is the motor to reinvigorate old goals and to motivate the imagination to create new goals. We must reevaluate our desires.
What do we truly desire? Forget using words; we have overused words. Go for feelings and pictures in your head. Imagine;
visualize; envision; remember the feelings; and write descriptions.
Don't be too literal. If you see a new place to live when you dream; write about it in detail. How do you want to feel in that house?
Can you change your current home to give you that feeling? Do you want the house to impress others or to be the retreat you need
to renew yourself? If it is a big goal, break it down into multi-year milestone accomplishments and celebrate achieving each milestone.
Now is the time to end worn-out goals and replace them with driven, contextual desires. So often in my coaching, clients have trouble
seeing past the desire to just stop feeling bad or to reduce stress. It takes multiple sessions and consistent practice to move into
unexplored areas of desire and intention.
If you can find a symbolic through-line to your life, you have an advantage. If you can believe that you came here to accomplish
certain goals or to be of service in some way, you can more easily design goals driven by intense desire. I am lucky. I understand
what I am trying to accomplish in my life so that I can look at each circumstance and relationship as part of a whole serving the
purpose of teaching me and giving me the chance to be a better human and stronger spirit.
Please take some time to sit quietly, meditate, pray, vision, dream, explore, and think about the strong desires that will propel you
forward.
All the best for a glorious 2010!
Epiphanies
Epiphany is defined as a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential
meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple or commonplace occurrence or experience.
At this time of year, we can use a few good epiphanies to get us moving forward on our New Year’s resolutions
and goals. Oprah uses the term, “AHA moment” to describe the instant we understand a concept or behavior.
Many of us have envisioned what we would like to achieve in 2010. After five days of 2010 and returning to the
routine of our lives, we may be lost in old habits and behaviors. We may be challenged to keep the intentions
we set.
This is normal. We can refocus and gain strength in two ways. First, take a look at the desires underlying your
resolutions and goals. Are they strong enough to keep you enthusiastic and moving? If not, I have given an
exercise below to generate some passion for the goals. Also, listen to the live or archived radio shows I am
doing with my friend, Susan Burrell. We are talking specifically about those deep desires and intentions that
drive us.
Secondly, work to become more aware of the triggers that keep you stuck in old habits. Awareness is our best
friend in creating change. Awareness leads to epiphanies that allow us to catch the unwanted behaviors and
negative, limiting beliefs as they occur.
For example, you want a better relationship with a person, be it partner, child or coworker. You know that you
cannot change another person. You can only change yourself and open the possibility for an improved
relationship.
Watch how you feel, think, talk, and act around and with this person. Watch what you say to others about this
person. Become aware of the incessant self-talk you may be having about the relationship. Is this what you
want? How are you triggered to behave with this person? Can you stop the self-talk? Change the nature of the
thoughts?
Even a realization as simple as: “I hate when s/he tells me how to do something. It reminds me of my father
carping at me,” can create the intuitive shift in perception you need to release one trigger. Yes, an epiphany!
This person is not your father. The level of energy being triggered is probably much greater than the event
deserves. Calm down and ask him/her to speak differently or let you figure things out for yourself.
Epiphany comes from the Greek word for an appearance or miraculous phenomenon. Today, January 6 is the
Christian holy day of Epiphany which celebrates the 'shining forth' or revelation of God to humankind in human
form, in the person of Jesus.
It is a good day to allow clarity to manifest in your life – to let your inner light shine through to move your
positive choices and kindness to move you to the fulfillment of your dreams.
It is going to be an absolutely fabulous year! I promise. – Laura
Epiphany is defined as a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential
meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple or commonplace occurrence or experience.
At this time of year, we can use a few good epiphanies to get us moving forward on our New Year’s resolutions
and goals. Oprah uses the term, “AHA moment” to describe the instant we understand a concept or behavior.
Many of us have envisioned what we would like to achieve in 2010. After five days of 2010 and returning to the
routine of our lives, we may be lost in old habits and behaviors. We may be challenged to keep the intentions
we set.
This is normal. We can refocus and gain strength in two ways. First, take a look at the desires underlying your
resolutions and goals. Are they strong enough to keep you enthusiastic and moving? If not, I have given an
exercise below to generate some passion for the goals. Also, listen to the live or archived radio shows I am
doing with my friend, Susan Burrell. We are talking specifically about those deep desires and intentions that
drive us.
Secondly, work to become more aware of the triggers that keep you stuck in old habits. Awareness is our best
friend in creating change. Awareness leads to epiphanies that allow us to catch the unwanted behaviors and
negative, limiting beliefs as they occur.
For example, you want a better relationship with a person, be it partner, child or coworker. You know that you
cannot change another person. You can only change yourself and open the possibility for an improved
relationship.
Watch how you feel, think, talk, and act around and with this person. Watch what you say to others about this
person. Become aware of the incessant self-talk you may be having about the relationship. Is this what you
want? How are you triggered to behave with this person? Can you stop the self-talk? Change the nature of the
thoughts?
Even a realization as simple as: “I hate when s/he tells me how to do something. It reminds me of my father
carping at me,” can create the intuitive shift in perception you need to release one trigger. Yes, an epiphany!
This person is not your father. The level of energy being triggered is probably much greater than the event
deserves. Calm down and ask him/her to speak differently or let you figure things out for yourself.
Epiphany comes from the Greek word for an appearance or miraculous phenomenon. Today, January 6 is the
Christian holy day of Epiphany which celebrates the 'shining forth' or revelation of God to humankind in human
form, in the person of Jesus.
It is a good day to allow clarity to manifest in your life – to let your inner light shine through to move your
positive choices and kindness to move you to the fulfillment of your dreams.
It is going to be an absolutely fabulous year! I promise. – Laura
Goal Setting Exercise
This is very simple.
Email me if you have questions on this process: laurapiening@yahoo.com
This is very simple.
- Set aside 10-15 minutes every day to sit down in a quiet place with paper and pen.
- Take one goal and write every good thing you expect to experience while you are working to achieve this goal.
- Write as many positive expectations as you can; let repeats happen; just write
- How do you feel at the end of the session? Energized? Aware of benefits you never thought of before? Any insights into how
to better achieve the goal? - Write every day for two weeks.
- Go over every goal as many times as you can.
- Keep writing and allow the pictures to form in your mind and allow the feelings to bubble up inside.
- Make the goal and its purpose in meeting your deepest desires an integral part of you all the time.
Email me if you have questions on this process: laurapiening@yahoo.com